Parents Of Youth Sports

Have you ever got the chance to attend a youth ball game. Maybe you are lucky enough to have a child that plays youth sports. Congratulations! Youth sports are a very big part of American life. Maybe too big. Sure there is a small number that benefit from it to the point of college scholarships or even a career as a professional athlete. This is a very small percentage. Most children who are playing these sports won’t get the scholarships or the career as a professional. Sure, they benefit from sportsmanship, life skills of winning, losing, and setting goals. Making yourself better. The down side is so many kids also learn what it is like to never be good enough. Parents may love their children more than the world and only want to help but so often set a terrible example. I once attended a basketball game that my son was in and felt so bad for a player on the opposite team. He was a good player but not a super star. This young man was as good as anyone else there that night but not the player that his Dad had dreams of him being. Let’s get to his Dad. His Dad had done good in life, was a medical doctor, and had riches of the world. The problem was, he couldn’t walk and chew gum at the same time. He was on his son the whole game. Screaming, yelling, jumping, cursing. He made a fool of himself. It was so bad one of the refs stopped the game and told him he would have to calm down or leave. Now I am all about freedom and raising your children as you see fit, but we must stop and think is this helping. Is this making our children better people? This young man left the game with his head hung low. He was so embarrassed and felt worthless. The young man is now in college. He is playing no sports. He simply wasn’t good enough. Just like the majority of kids. He is very intelligent and will do good for himself. So, did that night years ago gain anything? I say no. It only crushed his self esteem. He is right where he would be in life if his Dad had praised him for doing his best. We must watch how we act towards our children. These things will be remembered by them for years to come. Praise your children. Be proud of them and let them know. Unless you are Michael Jordon or Labron James then you have no right to talk down to these kids as this doctor did. He wanted his son to be what he wasn’t. Let the kids have fun. It is about them, not the parents. Kids are only kids once. Let them be happy and have fun.

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You Can Be Anything You Want To Be

When I was in the third grade my teacher told her class that we could be anything that we wanted to be. As a child I pondered this and was already smart enough to know that was not the case for me and my classmates. We were from small rural America in a school that held 150 kids K-8th.  Our parents either worked the family farm or drove 25 miles to town for work. We road on the bus to school and back home. We eat home cooked meals, played in the yard barefoot, shot hoops in the barn loft and all the other things country boys and girls done. We were happy but content we would never go anywhere past our means. How crazy was this teacher that said we could one day be president. Looking back on it, in that time and day she was crazy. We could not be president or make a big name for our self in rural America. If we made the local paper, that went to about a thousand people we were big time. You don’t make president like that. Today though is a different day and time. Today you can tweet, blog, Facebook, email, text , Snapchat or whatever else they have come up with in the last 72 hours. There is roughly 3,750,000,000 people on the internet in the world. The time it takes for you to shower in the morning you can send out your opinion on anything and reach millions in seconds. Beats the heck out of the 1000 people the local paper reached when we were kids. So yes March 8, 2018 I believe as my teacher did that you can be anything you want to be. Maybe a future president is out in your yard running after their sibling right now. You can truly be anything you want to be.